Tuesday, June 23, 2009
This is week 2 of the True Woman Makeover Bible study hosted by Tammi at Valley Girl.
Proverbs 31 verses 11 and 12 -11 The heart of her husband trusts in her, And he will have no lack of gain. 12 She does him good and not evil All the days of her life. It doesn't say she does this because he treats her well. It doesn't say if your husband praises your efforts to do this. It says to do this regardless of how you are treated. We are to do this because our first commitment is to God.
He can trust her to speak well of him and to protect his name. While I don't generally speak ill of my husband, I do have one friend who I share my frustrations with. So, I need to work on this. I need to always have his best interests at heart. With God's grace no matter if my husband meets my expectations, I can be devoted like this.
I need to let God be the head of everything and my husband the head of our home. I think I have a problem with giving up this control to a certain extent. I tend to think I'm right and others are wrong. I have to learn to give up that control and in that I will gain freedom.
Nancy Leigh DeMoss asks "Have you totally eliminated the D-word—divorce—from your vocabulary?" I know a lot of people haven't. There are lots of people who get married thinking, well if it doesn't work out, I will just get a divorce and try again. I used to be one of those women. Earlier in my marriage I thought about divorce. But, I made it through that time and now I can honestly say that the D-word isn't in my vocabulary. I have made a commitment to this marriage. To God and my husband and family.
Any woman who is a godly woman, a wife, a mother works. She works hard and is diligent. Nancy says "diligence is viewing each task as a special assignment from the Lord and using all my energies to accomplish it." What a way to look at cooking and cleaning. Instead of looking at it as a chore, look at it as an assignment from God.
In Titus 2:5 it says women are to be workers at home. The husband is supposed to be the breadwinner. It is our job as wives to manage what he brings home and not waste it. We are to be loyal and faithful even with our finances.
Nancy asks "Have you accepted the responsibility, the privilege of caring for the physical, practical needs of your family?" Usually I think I have. However, I don't always feel it's a privilege, like after changing the umpteenth diaper of the day, lol. I do need to work on finding joy in this work.
Our first work should always be done in the home before venturing to work outside the home. I like this comment Nancy makes on a friend who quit working outside the home: "she’s investing in the lives of her children. She’s working for eternity. She’s developing a relationship with those children, with that husband, and God is being pleased." Pleasing God is what it's all about!
A quote in this section says “only love can make such diligent service sweet and delightful. Where love is lacking, this work will be the worst drudgery.” I need to start my work with the right heart. We are going to have to do the work anyway, why not do it with a joyful heart and attitude. Galatians 6:9 says Let us not lose heart in doing good, for in due time we will reap if we do not grow weary. We will reap our rewards in Heaven.
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