This is our True Woman Tuesday Week 3 study of lessons 7-9. We start this week with Proverbs 31 verse 26 She opens her mouth in wisdom, And the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.
This has always, always been my downfall. Ask anyone, they'll tell you I can't keep my mouth shut! Which might be okay, if what came out of it was kindness and wisdom. But, let's face it, the things that come out are awful sometimes.
Nancy Leigh DeMoss says "So many of us talk in ways outside our homes that we don’t think to talk inside our homes. How can I encourage? How can I speak words that lift up? I find that when I go to visit my family—I live alone, but when I go to visit my family, I find that often-times I don’t have the common courtesies with them that I do with people outside my family." This is true for me also. I usually get upset faster with my children or my husband than I would a friend or a stranger. They say you hurt the ones you love the most, or something like that.
I need to learn self control. I don't have to say every single thing that comes to mind. But, if I want the words coming out of my mouth to be different, I have to stop and think before I speak. I need to talk with God and ask for the right things to say. I need to ask myself “Is what I’m about to say wise? Is it worth saying? Does it need to be said?” If the answer is no, then I should just keep my mouth closed, as hard as that is for me to do.
Verse 27 talks about how she watches over her home and does not eat the bread of idleness. Boy, they are just all on me today, huh? I am definitely lazy with a capital L! Nancy says if we are idle we can't manage our homes well. But, she also says with the Lord's grace we can learn to be productive, virtuous, women. As she says "You’re never more like Jesus than when you’re serving."
I think the best way to start out is by starting my day with the Lord. I have a book of daily devotionals I am reading and it seems to always be exactly what I needed to hear on that particular day. However, there are some days when I think I am too busy to read this before starting my day and those are usually my worst days. So, I definitely need to stop thinking I know best and start reading His word!
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